“So, do you have any regrets or whatsoever, for skipping a junior high class?”
One of many questions i get asked most often. And what’s my usual answer? “No” i have no regrets for the decision i made and this post is going to tell you the reason why…
I skipped the last part of my junior year in school, registered and took the then external exams with my seniors… and then, i stayed at home, hopes high that I’d be posted into a school. Before the result and postings were out, i use to doubt whether I’d be continuing school or not… to me, i didn’t feel good, matured and prepared enough for my next step in life. But all through that, there was one thing i kept telling myself,
“If i had the courage to begin, i surely have the courage to succeed” one of my favorite quotations by DAVID VISCOTT
And, yes! I succeeded… i was admitted in although not recognized as one of the “best schools” in my hood, but, it was okay… for someone who skipped a class.
I lost about 15 friends the day and back to the answer, yeah, I’ve regretted nothing…
“How did you blend in?”
It was a difficult journey…at first, i was a type who wanted everyone’s attention. I wanted everyone to like me, both teachers and students. Until i realized, not everyone would like me. How did i come by this realization? Because i had a mate who hated me throughout our stay in school.
Didn’t the skip affect your grades?
Actually, it did. I found it difficult to understand some things at first, but miraculously, as we progressed, things became pretty much simple, maybe it was because I put in a lot of work. But all the same, i broke through.
What’s the point of this throwback?
Some decisions are difficult to take, let alone to execute, at first, they sound crazy, terrible and even sometimes unwise. All my friends stopped talking to me, I don’t actually know why, but they all ceased to be in touch with me. Well, I tried my best to be in touch, but if they weren’t ready, “who am I to force them to be my friends?” So I had to let go…
Now, as you are with your friends, happy and content right now, there will be a time where you have to choose between your friends and your dreams… I will urge you to choose your dreams over friends, if your friends can’t support your dreams, then don’t count them among your friends. If your friends don’t encourage and inspire you to work harder and support your dreams alongside chastening you, I think you might want to do away with them.
One other thing that I learnt, is that, whatever you do, there’ll be critics to criticize you.
…don’t be broken by the jabs they will throw at you, sometimes you have to soak into their criticism in order to evolve. Come back stronger every time…
“We cannot become what we need to be by remaining what we are” – Max DePree.
Maybe criticisms are not that bad after all.
Lastly, one thing that will keep you in the game, is what you can do easily and everyone else can’t.
Why? Because the only thing that kept me in the competition, was my ability to write. Well, I will not boast, but in my class, one thing I could do more than anyone else was to write and read.
Other than that, I would have been made to feel useless…
What do can you do better than anyone else? Maybe you don’t know yet, but, take this quick advice, “Try Everything” did you know that aside writing I could design? Did you know that aside writing, I could act? And most of all, did you know that aside writing, I could criticize and encourage?
Don’t stick to one thing, get out of your comfort zone. Explore “Variety is the spice of life”
“He who has not made a mistake before hasn’t tried anything new”
My intense fear of failure almost crushed me. In fact, I would have gotten out of school with really, no good reputation at all. Well, I conquered my fear of failure…
For God’s sake, stop being Kakorrhaphiophobic. Get up back on your feet whenever you leap and fall, that way, you get to know about the mistakes you made and how to avoid them.
These few lessons I learnt some time back, has really helped. I’m not saying invincible now, but somehow, it’s not easy for me to break down now.
To conclude, I would like to quote a line from Sarkodie, one Ghanaian rapper’s song “SarkCess story”:
“I went through the pain, but I used it”
I don’t know your pain story, maybe it might be different from mine. But, there’s one thing I know for sure… and that is, you’ll come out alive, influential and strong. Just don’t give up yet.